Communication 101

Dr. John Gottman gives us the template for destructive communication.  This concept is called "the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse."the biggest predictors of divorce. (www.gottman.com)

This video helps you use the Crazy Cycle Map to identify and see in a tangible way what Dr. Trudy calls your "Crazy Cycle."  You'll map out your own Crazy Cycle using the worksheet in the Anesis Marriage Training Handbook.

(Pages 95-97 in your Handbook.)

Let's take out tone of voice to help you begin stopping destructive communication styles.

Tone of voice is 59%-72% of communication! Couples begins to memorize each other's tone of voice and react to the tone rather than the content.

Taking an honest look at whether or not you are safe when communicating is important.  Take the Safety in Communication Evaluation in the Handbook.

Dr, Trudy teaches you five simple hand signals to help take tone of voice out of your communication and bring connection from your heads to your hearts.

Reactiveness in communication can actually start impacting your healthy as your body is responding to the stress of destructive communication styles.

Hand Signal #3

Take a 20 minute break and follow these steps to re-set!  Just taking the break doesn't always work if you don't get back to a calm state.

Dr. Trudy has created an app-like tool you can both have on your phone to go through the steps to Re-Set

READ AND REVIEW COMMUNICATION HAND SIGNALS    PAGES 100-113 IN YOUR HANDBOOK

Dr. Trudy prays with you for God's help to stop destructive communication cycles.